The South African Oxford School dictionary defines disappointment as:
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isappoint: verb to fail to do what someone hoped for or desired or expected. Disappointment noun.
I did however notice the stronghold disappointment has- not within me, but in my peers, how depressing it was to hear people say: “ Don’t worry about it friend” or “You’ll be okay...” disappointment never really bothered me until everyone around me brought it up, so was I disappointed or we’re they? “ To fail to do what someone had hoped or desired or expected.”
Who is this “someone” they’re speaking of? Because as I recall I was perfectly fine until everyone started making a huge deal of my and disappointments relationship, disappointment and I knew exactly where we stood in each other’s spheres until everyone came and blurred our love- hate relationship. Don’t get me wrong I’m not saying friends shouldn’t show compassion when they feel you’ve been hurt by something- its human instinct to want to comfort a loved one when they’re...well...disappointed, but don’t we tend to jump the gun by assuming someone is more affected by something then they let on, flocks of friends coming to you to tell you how sorry they are can really put a damper on a girls mood.
Luckily we all have that one friend with enough common sense to recognise that you might not need a pep talk on dealing with life’s hardships, all you might just want is time alone... just you and disappointment, re-evaluating your relationship, re- building boundaries and accepting that hey... shit happens, and once you know what’s what, you can build a bridge- on your own terms- and GET OVER IT!
So to my friends out there, just in case you didn’t know, I’m taking this opportunity to let you know: Yeah, disappointment sucks, but it’s not the end of the world- As Marlene Dietrich said: Friends are Gods way of taking care of us, and as much as I love you... The sad looks just aren’t stundee, and if I didn’t bring it up clearly I don’t want to talk about it yet, or it really doesn’t bother me that much...so (and I say this with every fibre of love in my being)...back off and let a sistah breathe!!
Deuces!
“Shoot for the moon. Even if you fail, you will land amongst the stars” – Les Brown, Motivational speaker.
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